As you grow older, many things about you and those around you change, and with these changes, you discover some cold hard truths about life you have to accept and learn to live with. Unfortunately, most of us try to deny their existence in order to protect ourselves from admitting and accepting these hard truths. At other times, we are too busy to spend any time assessing our lives to discover them.
The unfortunate thing is that many people learn of these hard truths about life when it is too late for them to change or do anything but regret not knowing them sooner and accepting them. So, in this post, we shall discuss some examples of hard truths about life you have to accept in order to live a better life or be satisfied with your current one.
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12 Hard Truths about Life You Have to Accept
- Death is inevitable
The fragility of life is one of the hard truths about life that most people try not to accept until someone close to them dies or their own life is threatened, whether by age, illnesses, accidents, e.t.c. But it is true. You are going to die someday, and you can’t know when or how it will happen in order to be ready for it or change anything.
Your parents, siblings, and friends will also die, and it can happen at any time. The inevitability of death is why you should learn how to live in the moment and enjoy all that life has to offer now because postponing your happiness for tomorrow is planning for something that may never happen.
You have to accept this hard truth about life’s fragility because none of us are getting out of here alive.
- Karma doesn’t always work
So you relied on karma to get back at the people who wronged you in the past and have held a grudge hoping that you will have retribution someday? Well, one of the hard truths about life you have to accept is that karma doesn’t always work, or if it does, it will probably not happen in this lifetime.
The people who wronged you might still prosper and have happy lives while you wait for things to come around. The best thing you can do now is to forgive people even if they don’t apologize and let go of grudges. Holding a grudge hurts you the most and hinders your personal growth by making you get stuck in the past.
- Most people are shallow
We are always told that we should focus on what is inside a person and not on surface-level things. But one of the hard truths about life you have to accept is that most people are only interested in surface-level things such as looks and money.
People who aren’t authentic are loved more, wealth is seen as more important than love, personality, or morals, and attractive people have the pretty privilege. The bottom line is that most people are shallow even though they pretend to value depth.
- To achieve your goals, you must take risks
Unless you are lucky and somehow manage to achieve your goals while in your comfort zone, most other times, to make a real difference or reach your dreams, you will have to take risks. The need to take risks to achieve your goals is one of the cold hard truths about life you have to accept because nothing worthwhile comes easily.
Depending on the area of your life you want to change, you need to trust your instincts and just go for it. Your future self will thank you for it!
- Some things are beyond your control
We usually stress ourselves trying to change things that are beyond our control instead of just accepting this hard truth about life. Some things are beyond your control, no matter how much you try to change them.
For example, you can’t change the past because it already happened. All you can do is learn from it and look for ways to let it go and move on.
You also have no control over what other people think of you, their choices, or how they behave towards you or others. However, even though you can’t control or change some things in your life, you can control how you respond to them.
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- Your happiness depends on you
Many people chase happiness and try to find it in various things and people, not knowing that they should accept the hard truth that their happiness depends on themselves. While having material possessions or people you love and those that love you in your life can make you happy, your happiness shouldn’t depend on them.
People lose their money and material possessions all the time. Your friends and family will leave or die one day. What will happen to you when all these things and people are gone? Will that mean that you will be perpetually sad?
You have to accept the hard truth that your happiness depends on you and not on other factors. Learn to connect with your inner self and enjoy your own company without the influence of external factors.
- You are the only person you can rely on completely
Of all the cold hard truths about life you have to accept, this is one of the crucial ones to be aware of. For various reasons such as death, priorities, betrayal, and flakiness, very few people will have your back at all times, and the only one you can count on with 100% certainty is yourself and no one else.
- You can do everything right and still fail
Have you ever followed the instructions, worked hard, and still failed at achieving your desired goal? If this hasn’t happened to you yet, it is one of the hard truths about life you have to accept because it might occur at some point.
Working hard or dedicating yourself to something doesn’t guarantee your success, and succeeding in one thing might mean failing in another. For example, you might believe in hustle culture, work extra hard and attain the goal you wanted but in the process, you neglect your family and lose them. Or, perhaps, the reason you fail after doing everything right could be beyond your control, such as a difference in beliefs or opinions, better competition, and having no proof.
Your takeaway from the experience should be that at least you tried. Depending on how you failed, you could either reorganize your priorities or learn from the failure and use it as motivation to strive to do better.
- You need a support system
No man is an island. Even though your happiness shouldn’t depend on other people, it is also not good to isolate yourself and avoid interacting with others. Social isolation could lead to health issues such as depression, loneliness, poor sleep quality, irregular eating habits, and cognitive decline.
Later in life, you might come to regret pushing people away when you have no one to share your life with or take care of you in your old age. Having a support system and building strong bonds with your loved ones will improve your well-being and enhance the quality of your life.
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- Success takes time
You Google how to do something, say, for example, lose weight or become rich, and you get all these search engine results about ‘how to lose X (insert an outrageously high number) pounds in a week naturally’ or ‘how to become rich overnight.’
You wonder, ‘Am I doing something wrong because my goal is taking longer to achieve?’ But you don’t have to start second-guessing yourself because one of the hard truths about life is that success doesn’t happen overnight. And if it does for some people, most times, the overnight success is either due to luck or some shady behavior and deals.
- Everyone struggles
You probably see people who seem to have their sh*t together and their life all figured out, and think that they are stress-free. You couldn’t be more wrong. Every person has their own struggles, no matter how rich, famous, beautiful, or whatever other privileged position they are in, and this is another of the hard truths about life you have to accept.
It is not possible to be happy all the time because life often throws us curve balls. No matter how happy someone seems, don’t assume anything about them because you don’t know what they could be hiding behind that laugh or smile.
- Perfection doesn’t exist
Many people are trapped in the relentless pursuit of perfection in various aspects of their lives – from their careers to relationships and even in their physical appearance. But one of the hard truths about life you have to accept is that chasing perfection is a futile activity.
It will only exhaust and frustrate you because we are all just humans who are imperfect and can make mistakes. If you wait for everything to be perfect, you will never do anything significant in life.
And there you have them. The above are some of the hard truths about life you have to accept. These are life lessons and things that we know already, but we often forget about them because we either don’t want to face the harsh reality or the fast pace of modern life does not allow us to spend much time assessing our life.
Do you know any other hard truths about life we should accept?
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