Are you going through a difficult time right now? If you are, you are not alone. The past few years haven’t been easy for many people as they struggled with problems in their personal life, professional life, and even things to do with the rest of the world – for example, the ongoing pandemic, the Russia-Ukraine war, politics, or natural disasters.
But just because you are going through tough times doesn’t mean you should bury your head in the sand and give up trying to make things better. So, if you need something to encourage you to keep going and hope for better times, here are some things to remember when you are going through a difficult time. They will motivate you to continue looking for solutions to your problems and not give up when facing difficulties.
Things to Remember When Going Through a Difficult Time
- Nothing is permanent, even problems
One of the hard truths about life we all have to accept is that everything ends eventually. Good times, bad times, neither of them are permanent. The fact that change is inevitable and that you won’t feel like this forever are some things to remember when going through a difficult time.
Even though things may seem bleak right now, you can anticipate that the scales will tip in your favor at some point, and things will get better, eventually. The concept that explains the impermanence of things in life and why the good and bad even out is called regression to the mean.
- You’ve had problems before, and you overcame them
None of us can go through life without ever experiencing challenges. What may vary is how tough those challenges were to each of us. So, how did you get through the tough times in your past?
Since you are here today and are probably experiencing a different problem than the ones in your past, you must have found a way to resolve your past issues.
When going through a difficult time, reminding yourself that you have had challenges in the past that you overcame will give you hope that you can overcome your current problems as well. It could also inspire you to do the same things you did before to solve your issues.
- It is okay not to be okay
Although we are always encouraged to be positive and see the brighter side of things, sometimes this is just not possible. For example, when the difficult time you are going through right now is because you are grieving a lost loved one.
The toxic positivity that is so prevalent today could make you feel shame or guilt for having negative emotions. However, one of the things to remember when going through a difficult time is that it is okay not to be okay. Even though you may try, no one can be happy and positive all the time.
The negative emotions you experience are a natural reaction when things aren’t going well in your life, and you shouldn’t apologize, feel guilty, or be ashamed to have them. So, instead of faking happiness or bottling up your negative feelings, embrace your emotions and allow yourself to feel them. You can then find ways to cope and manage your emotions in order to heal and move forward with your life.
- You are strong enough to get through anything
One of the important things to remember when going through a difficult time is that you are bigger than your problems. Do not allow what you are going through to weigh heavily on you and make you feel defeated and overwhelmed. By doing so, you would be giving your problems too much power over you and letting them define and control you and your actions.
Take your control and power back by reminding yourself that you are strong enough to overcome your problems. You can build more self-confidence by using affirmations and mantras that remind you how strong and resilient you are.
- Everyone faces challenges
When you are going through tough times, it is easy to start looking for the reasons why this is happening to you and come up with all kinds of answers to explain it. You may even feel like the universe is against you or that you have bad luck.
But one of the things to remember when going through a difficult time is that everybody struggles at some point – even those people who seem to have their sh*t together, have wealth, or have the happiest families.
Everyone is fighting their own battles, and many people hide a lot of pain behind their smiles. Knowing you are not the only one having problems in life can give you some comfort and hope, two things you need when going through tough times.
- Be kind to yourself
Many of us beat ourselves up when things aren’t going well in our lives. It is even worse if you did something that resulted in the situation you are in right now. But, unfortunately, blaming yourself and wallowing in self-pity usually make finding solutions for your problems harder.
Therefore, one of the things to remember when going through a difficult time is to be kind to yourself. To move forward and start working on your problems, you should forgive yourself and practice self-love and self-compassion.
- Tough times are a great opportunity to learn
You are probably not thinking of the positive side of your problems right now because you are so distracted by the pain and suffering they are causing you. However, even though it may seem impossible to do, one of the things to remember when going through a difficult time is that this is an opportunity to learn.
When you reflect on your past problems, you will often realize that you learned something from those experiences. This time will be no different.
Learn everything you can as you go through these tough times and use these lessons to either avoid ever going through that again or to cope with similar difficulties in the future. The life lessons learned during difficult times will boost your personal growth and make you a better version of yourself.
- There is always something to be thankful for
Perhaps everything seems not to be going well in your life right now, and you feel overwhelmed by all the negativity. But are you aware that you can still find things that are going well that you can celebrate and be thankful for even when you are going through a difficult time? You only need to look for these things.
Spend some quiet time alone and reflect on your day or your entire life. The things to be thankful for don’t even have to be big achievements. It can be something as small as being able to take a breath. So many people are dead or need assistance from machines to breathe, and here you are, doing it without difficulty.
When going through tough times, remember to look for the small and big things to appreciate and be thankful for each day. Doing this will make you feel optimistic and help you change your way of thinking about your problems.
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- Get out of your head
Sometimes things aren’t as bad as we make them out to be. And this is what often happens when we experience problems. We make mountains out of molehills by overthinking and obsessing about our problems and mistakes, which can be overwhelming. As such, one of the important things to remember when going through a difficult time is to get out of your own head.
In the meantime, you can distract yourself by doing something you love, taking a walk, or sharing your problems with someone to gain a different perspective. These activities will help you stop the spiral of negative thoughts you may have while obsessing about your problems.
- Many people are willing to help
Don’t suffer in silence! One of the things to remember when going through a difficult time is that there are so many people out there who are willing to help you if you ask for it (sometimes even if you don’t). You only need to learn how to be more vulnerable with others and open up.
The first group of people you should turn to is your support system, made up of your loved ones. If you don’t have a support system already, you can build one during these tough times by talking and spending more time with your friends and family. If you need professional help, you can consult a therapist or an expert in whatever other field you may be having problems with.
At other times, it might be easier to open up to strangers on the internet, which is made easier by all the people on social media who are willing to let you vent in order to help you understand your problems and provide solutions where possible.
If you look for them, there are plenty of people who are willing to help you when you are going through tough times. All you need to do is reach out to them without the fear of being judged.
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And there you have them. The above are some things to remember when you are going through a difficult time. If you are currently in this situation, know that there is a light at the end of the tunnel, and you can reach it. You only need to keep going.
As Winston Churchill once said, ‘If you are going through hell, keep going’; that is how you get out on the other end. So, if you are facing adversity and it seems like nothing is working out well for you, keep the above things in mind in order to remain hopeful and inspired to continue working to find solutions to your problems.
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