6 Things That Happen to You When You Become Unapologetically Yourself
Everyone has a role to play in this world, and that is why we are all created with unique qualities. However, in your journey through life, a lot of things influence your personality. Society, in particular, has expectations of you and what you should aspire to be; and if you try to fit into the mold, you can easily lose your individuality in the process. You will try to think, feel, dress, act, or do things similar to what everyone else is doing – scared of what others will think if you did them differently.
Perhaps this tendency to conform is caused by the Fear of Missing Out(FOMO), or it could simply be because humans are social creatures, and we usually want to fit in and be liked by others. But, what if you decided to embrace your individuality and become unapologetically yourself? What would happen? Would it mean being alone? Or is this about being rude and stubborn?
Being unapologetically yourself means embracing who you are, what things make you unique, knowing what you like and dislike, what you stand for, as well as your worth. If you can’t be yourself, who else would you be? And why would you want to be anything other than yourself when your life could be so much easier and better when you are your authentic self?
Here are few things that will happen to you once you embrace being unapologetically yourself.
1. You get to know yourself better
If you lived in a world where there were no other people, events, or sharing of ideas, you wouldn’t have a choice but be who you are because that is all you would ever know. But alas! That is not the world we live in today. There are always external factors trying to dictate to you how to live your life, and if you are not careful, you can easily lose sight of who you are.
When you are unapologetically yourself, you view your life through your own lenses and not from the same one everyone else is using. You get to identify your strengths and weaknesses. You become more self-aware, understanding why you are the way you are and how you function. Through this, you discover your purpose in life. You know what is holding you back and can find ways not to let them drag you down. Additionally, you accept yourself the way you are and live your life on your own terms.
2. You build meaningful relationships
Have you ever been in a relationship or friendship where you couldn’t express yourself for fear that you might reveal a side of yourself that the other person wouldn’t approve of? It could even be small things like the fact you like binge-watching because you know the other person thinks it is a waste of time. Or hiding that you are smart, to avoid seeming intimidating? When trying to fit into a friend group, you might wear a mask trying to be relatable. You could pretend to like the same things they do or hate the same things.
If you have to hide who you are to be acceptable in a relationship with someone, you probably shouldn’t be in that relationship. When you become an authentic person, you discover your value and aren’t afraid to show all aspects of yourself. Not everyone deserves to be in your life. The right people will stay by you no matter what, and they will probably be people with values similar to yours. You will build better, more meaningful relationships with them because they know and accept the real you.
3. You increase your self-confidence
If you are always trying to fit in and place what others think about you above your perception of yourself, you have given someone else power over you. Without external feedback and approval, you will lose trust in your abilities; thus, hold yourself back from exploring your full potential.
However, when you embrace the true you, you trust your judgments and have faith in your abilities to succeed. You will be taking risks and facing challenges without fear of what others will think even if you fail. You also learn to take a stand and say no to things that you are not supportive of; and mean it.
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4. You learn to live in the moment
Not being yourself will eventually destroy you. Living in the shadow of other people trying to be like them will drain you both mentally and physically, and life is too short to live that way. Why waste your life pretending to be what someone else wants you to be? There will never be a more convenient time to be you than right now. You can’t say you will start tomorrow, or next month, or next year. That is not promised to us. When you are unapologetically yourself, you seize the opportunity to do the things you love and those that make you happy; thus living your life to the fullest. You accept that there are things beyond your control, and that is okay.
5. You try to impress yourself, not others
You will be a happier person when you are not trying to please others or seeking their validation. If you rely on others for validation, you are most likely going to be disappointed. Your definition of success might not be the same as everyone else.
“If you are happy doing what you love, nobody can tell you that you are not successful”Harry Styles
When you embrace being unapologetically yourself, you celebrate your wins, however small they might be. You know what is important to you and chase after your dreams. You no longer have to wait for someone else to congratulate you or part you on the back to confirm that you have succeeded.
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6. This is you! You don’t need to apologize for who you are
Are you the kind of person who feels the need to apologize for everything, even things you can’t control? Like being you? You are who you are, and you shouldn’t feel the need to apologize for that. Some of the things that you should stop apologizing for, include; your emotions, appearance, opinions, asking questions, or your uniqueness.
By being unapologetically yourself, you learn about self-love and compassion. You accept that you have a mind of your own and that your beliefs and opinions are valid. So if you feel like expressing your feelings, go ahead.
It is easy to live a life where no one judges you because you are just like everyone else, but will that make you extraordinary? No. Do not let anyone dim your light and force you into the background to dictate your life. You have a purpose in this life that no one else who has lived before or will live after you will ever have or fulfill. Discover who and what you are meant to be by being unapologetically yourself starting today.